For many people, life is a struggle. An unwinnable war made up of unsettling battles with an invisible enemy. Sound extreme? The severity of the struggle depends largely on our worldview and our relationship with change.
Life is not a war. It’s a game. Yes! Life is a game. It can be a game that you consistently have what you want and live a genuine joyful, meaningful and successful life. If it feels like life is war, then there are some changes to be made. Changing how we play life’s game is not hard to comprehend. It is trickier, however, if we are living in the dark and can’t find the light switch.
Here’s the dilemma. We are fabulous at adaptation. We can move mountains when we are compelled to do so. We are also survivalists. We are wired to continue our existence at all costs. The battle is for control when faced with change. On one hand, we are meant to grow and evolve. The degree to which we are willing and able to adjust to change is the degree to which we have the chance of living a successful life that is joyful, meaningful and fulfilling.
On the flipside, there is no 100% guarantee of the outcome when we make changes. This lack of surety smacks up against our survival impulse. For, after all, survival equals safety. Safety does not encourage change. No matter the circumstance, no matter the discomfort, if you survived yesterday, then chances are you will survive today if you continue doing what you have been doing. Contradictory to what expanding, growing and transforming our life.
Here’s the irony. Change is essential for our growth and development as a person, as a species, as a society. Our human nature and inherited traditions, which we are mostly blind to, can cause us to be weighed down by our circumstances and harsh in our evaluation of ourselves, of others and life itself. Therefore, when it’s time for growth, change, and development, most humans resist.
This resistance, even when we desire the change, can come in the disguise of confusion, angst, dissatisfaction, restlessness, anxiousness, and disenchantment. Often, we will describe ourselves as being stuck, fearful, depressed and uncertain. This is the time when it behooves us to stop the madness and learn to be a game changer and play the game of *L.I.F.E.E. full on.